Excerpt from In my Wainwrights Shoes  
Guilty but Innocent! Stigmatic Bipolar Conspiracies
By Chris Wainwright,​

5. David - Financial Emotional Abuse

Back at Princes Risborough one day a customer saw me and exclaimed how much she’d missed me and hoped I was going to stay! No sooner had she spoken David shouted out, "what’s wrong with me?". Mrs B began to apologise until the situation became calmer. His jealous outburst made it obvious that he had an inferiority complex which he could barely control. There was no need for a psychologist it was as obvious as could be! Dad never found out but the outburst was confirmation that my presence in the company was a thorn in his side and the only solutiion solution was extraction.

It was just one of those things that as the firstborn I grew up bearing the expectations. I was able to make customers laugh or amuse them with conversation about France, the army, the law or and sport. David had been ok while I was subdued with depression but with my health back he obviously felt inferior. Dad shouldve stepped in and explained that it didn’t matter! he didnt need to emulate the Wainwrights banter dad and Kens sales banter and his own style was more than adequate. David was needlessly over-critical. Our accountant PB noticed the problem and mentioned it to dad who for once came up with a solution if things got worse. The three of us agreed that if I wished I could leave the company and establish a business of my own 'under the umbrella of Wainwrights’. That was a welcome reassurance for me after the long history of aggravation from David I'd put up with and that his attitude was unlikely to change. 

For the good of our family business and knowing the strain on dad I left the company when Davids jealousy became too much. It was an awful time for me because I couldnt see that the situation could possibly backfire. Having done the right thing by leaving I was denied my rights and finished up stabbed in the back. I sent a note to David saying there was no prospect of us working together anymore but hoped we could remain friends. I heard nothing in acknowledgement although later he claimed my letter 'didn't merit a reply'. Despite our ‘umbrella’ agreement I didn't receive any of the finance that dad and david had promised me to build make a new business! I had to work at home using emails to negotiate my settlement with the company. and credit cards to raise finance. With hindsight I should have stayed in the company to keep an eye on my own interests.

Thanks to me my siblings now own it and receive the shops rental. Ignoring our umbrella agreement Dad insisted I sell my share to Stephen as part of my leaving settlement! Through no effort of their own they own an unbeatable investment thanks to their eldest brother despite his bipolar 1 mental illness.Conspiring against me is just one way my siblings cheated me! A 'gang of three' against me on my own! They've been able to manipulate the facts and enjoy themselves at my family's expense. The C&D Properties scandal is bad enough but dad's unfair will is equally appalling:- is it credible that my bipolar 1 illness wasn't used against me? It's to be expected and Davids wife admitted it! If anyone's in doubt look at leading psychiatric research which shows that stigma of Bipolar 1 disorder is far deeper rooted in society than was ever believed..
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It was another example that dad could manage female sales assistants but lacked experience with men. David wouldn't have listened to me and dad didn't know what to do. I knew however I could rely on our agreement. 
A degree course or gap year work experience would’ve helped Davids confidence and dad shouldve put his foot down and made him. The problem was dad never got over the shock of my bipolar and his last attempt to manupulate one of his children was my sister who flatly refused to let him interefere in her marriage.

I dont think anyone who knows the facts would doubt that David and Alison had dad under his influence.

The only time I returned to the business David suddenly accused me of hitting dad in the face. The fact is I never did and never would. He lied to make me appear thuggish to anyone in earshot. He was offguard as he was with his outburst to Mrs B. I've had no explanation for either events. My brother David Wainwright has questioned my good character and that now entitles me to challenge his own. People who know me are aware that the two of us are opposite poles. Why else would I write in these terms?I didn't involve the shop staff in what I call a scandal. Behaving fairly and respectfully as I always do got me nowhere with David. That's hardly surprising because he, Alison and some of the Princes Risborough shop staff were dishonest. It was years later when I finally realised that if I didn't open up honesrly about those events and my bipolar 1 it would leave me washed up and a guilty man looking innocent. Understanding that made a difference to my self esteem. Wainwright & Sons Ltd still owe me a fortune

Things got worse. Stephen, acting as broker, told me dad had made a ‘temporary’ will to protect David if he died before our negotiations were completed. What I didn’t know was that  Dad had instructed R S, senior partner at my former employers, to draw up a ‘temporary will’ which even RS said was unfair. Mum agreed but it made no difference because it would upset dad. That will conflicted with our ‘umbrella agreement’. In fairness to me RS should not have accepted instructions. I wondered why he shot off when I pulled up in Chinnor to say hello! All the time I was working from home without funds trying to start a business which we could live off. The only choice I had was selling online on an eBay shop!  Stephen emailed me with his progress as broker. I was astonished to hear in 2009 that dad had gifted David my uncle Kens shares to make sure he didn’t lose control of the business if he passed on. Dad said that he couldn’t decide what to do about my settlement and wanted the four of us to reach an agreement. He was clear that he didn’t want Dave, Sandy and Stephen to be able to "gang up” on me. Stephen said that Alison did most of the talking but was ‘very’ blinkered with no interest in restoring family harmony. He also said that he wanted us all to get on afterwards but much depended on Alison. I’d seen Alison a number of times but barely knew her. I’m extremely unhappy about the part she played in what was always my leaving settlement in our family business. I think of her as a gold digger. I don’t believe any fair-minded person would disagree. The way I was treated by Wainwright & Sons and my brother and sister in law was scandalous. To leave me in this position where ‘there was nothing I could do about it’ was beyond belief Maria and I were going to open a ladies shoe shop. I wish we’d been able to. My girls would’ve loved it. In the meantime our negotiations went on and on. I had no dealings with David whatsoever. He relied completely on dad until he died. Stephen should really have resigned as ‘broker’ because our interests were conflicting, while with hindsight Alison was gold digging again much as when she replaced her old boyfriend RC with David. I reminded Stephen I’d been forced to sell him my share of the trust property which should be taken into account (Dad had suggested Stephen bought my 25% share so I could fund my business. That was hardly fair! It was meant for our families NOT for settling Wainwrights liabilities.) There was so much going on behind my back I didn’t know the half of it. I’d lost both parents in the most miserable of circumstances and was thoroughly dejected. That wasn’t due to bipolar it was my grief and reaction to being stabbed in the back. They even began to call it my ‘predicament’.It's way past time that I spoke up for myself but I don’t like having to. If you were in my shoes you’d probably feel the same.​



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OBLIGED TO LEAVE WAINWRIGHTS
(I tell the story on page 9 of the website).
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When it came to it however Dad and David refused to honour the agreement. I believed there was nothing I could do about it at the time because Dad was the majority shareholder and I couldn’t upset him. There was a long history of aggravation from David and there was no prospect of us working together anymore. I had to work at home and used emails to negotiate for a settlement with the company. With hindsight I should have stayed at Wainwrights and made life difficult but that wasn’t really me. Despite our ‘umbrella’ agreement I never received a salary or any financial contribution from Wainwrights Ltd whatsoever to build my new business! Morally Wainwrights owe me a fortune. I never involved any of the staff in what I now consider to be a scandal. Behaving fairly and respectfully got me absolutely nowhere. David and Alison however plus some of the Princes Risborough staff lost no time in bad-mouthing me.
 

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